5 things people shouldn’t say/do to those experiencing fertility problems
1. “It will happen just be patient.” I have been patient. I’ve been a year and a half patient and it’s still not happening, even with all the medication and poking and prodding. It’s not just going to magically happen, so I’m not going to be patient anymore.
2. Pictures of your baby bump hurts our feelings. We like really want to be happy for you, but it’s a hurtful reminder to us that we can’t just magically be where you are. It’s okay to do it, just be sensitive to others who aren’t as fortunate as you are.
3. “Have you tried ____?” Chances are the answer is yes. Have I tried dieting to make my PCOS better? Yes, and I lost some weight (that I put on because of my stupid PCOS in the first place), but my PCOS is still preventing me from getting pregnant without a million drugs.
4. “Infertility” No, I’m not infertile. That word means that I cannot get pregnant. Fertility issues means that there are problems with my getting pregnant. See the difference? It’s a hurtful word to me.
5. “There are still so many options.” Yes, I know. I know that I’m only doing one type of thing are there is still IUI and IVF. But IUI is painful and IVF is prohibitively expensive. We’re hoping that this works since we’ve already spent thousands of dollars on testing, and medications, and doctor’s appointments.
There are also many more, but this is as good a place as ever to start this
